Divorce and Relationship Loss
A relational life in balance can be a source of joy, companionship, support, and connection. When our relationships feel out of balance, or when there is conflict or abuse, there are few things more painful in life.
Most people come to counseling when they have tried everything they can think of, and still there is no movement, change, or resolution. It can be hard to know what is your part, and where you need boundaries, endings, or new beginnings. It can be even harder to know how to make these changes! Sometimes ending a relationship is necessary, and sometimes it is more about re-visioning a current relationship, ending old patterns, and beginning new ones. There are so many possibilities, and at the same time you might feel trapped, overwhelmed, or hopeless.
Navigating these questions and finding what you say “YES!” to is the bread and butter of my counseling practice. What I love most about this work is how the relationship with the Self can change how we relate to others. If you are connected with yourself and living from a place of integrity and authenticity, your relationships will follow suit. Sometimes this means big hard changes, sometimes this means subtle shift in attitude, but eventually the outcome is that things do get better. It feels good to let go.
You deserve to have good relationships that lift you up and bring energy to your life. If you feel bogged down or hurt in your relationships with a partner, family, or friends, now is the time to listen to your intuition and get some support for change. There are many ways we can help you find your voice and take action towards positive relationships.
If navigating the landscape of divorce, here are some important questions we can explore together:
Are you considering divorce or separation?
Are you struggling to come to terms with a recent divorce?
Has your divorce or separation left you feeling angry or despondent?
If you find yourself feeling any of the following, you are not alone :
- Unresolved hostility or resentment towards your former spouse
- Upset about your partner’s infidelity, addiction or other destructive behaviors
- Feeling that your former partner didn’t give your marriage a chance
- Loneliness, or worry that you won’t find love again
- Guilt about things you did or didn’t do in your marriage
- Grief or depression about the dissolution of your marriage
- Stress or anxiety about financial burdens
Let’s make some space for you to tune in to what you want, who you want to be in relationship, and what you value. This is not just about a band-aid solution to make it through the day, but a re-alignment with your deepest wisdom and what matters to you. Taking time to know who you are and what you want in any of your relationships can change the trajectory of your life. Give me a call and let’s explore how I can support you in your relationship.